Unmasking the Ego: How Overactive Egos Fuel Abusive Behaviors

A late night out with friends and my husband at the time led to drinking way into the wee hours of the night while engaging in bar and club hopping. As i followed my friends up the stairway to the second story level of this packed club my husband and I began to argue. He wanted to leave already but i was enjoying myself and not ready to go. He gets angry and turns to walkout proceeding back down towards the stairs we had just come up. I turn to stop him and grab his arm to try and talk him out of leaving. That's when things turned really ugly. He spun around and grabbed me by the neck pushing me back into a railing with half me hanging over. A lady standing by immediately jumped in and started yelling at him to let me go and in that moment everything was happening so quickly. Security came up the stairs and escorted him out while everyone checked on me to see if i was alright. I was so embarrassed and still not ready to leave as i was angry with his behavior towards me. I was now the victim in the situation, but i still gave compassion to him. A quick call to him let me know he was okay and just waited outside for us. we all decided to leave as i was not enjoying myself anymore and feeling bad for what happened to him rather than myself. I made myself the problem and shamed myself for causing this chaos. 

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